Posted: August 26, 2026
By Val Sanders Posted: August 26, 2026 It’s a question that couples ask again and again in the therapy room. Is there hope for us? So often, when couples finally make it into therapy together, things have been rough for a long time. The same...
Posted: October 28, 2025
Building Adult Relationships With Your Kids One of the reasons I enjoy working with couples who are parents with children still at home is that I've just been through it myself. With one child just starting in college and another in her junior year of...
Posted: October 15, 2025
So often, when couples come to therapy, they’re in a really difficult place, spending years re-enacting the same dysfunctional script. One of the common threads linking many of the couples who come in the most deeply entrenched in painful, unhelpful scripts is a lack of...
Posted: September 29, 2025
One of the questions I get the most from couples starting in therapy is what can they do today to start changing things. It’s a wonderful question, one of the best actions I can offer is to appreciate and show care for yourself and your...
Posted: September 15, 2025
In virtually all relationships, there are things unsaid—words we have not spoken out of fear, or a conscious choice to keep the peace by not sharing. In a strained relationship, there is so much unsaid. Each partner typically learns that there are things that aren't...
Posted: July 29, 2025
In any given week, I hear a fair bit of bickering. Ironically enough, I am not talking about my teenagers, who get on swimmingly. Most of the bickering is with my couples in therapy. By the time people make the decision to come into couples...